Monday, May 29, 2006
The Loss of a Parent
Whilst lying in the bed I was thinking about my friends who have only one parent; because the second has returned to God Almighty. I thought to myself: what is worse: the loss of mum or the loss of dad?
I thought about one of my friends whose mum died 6 months ago, and how I had not been in touch with her as often as I should have been - because I needed some 'space'. I then thought of my friend who texted me a forward last week and how I had not been able to reply to her text. Her mum died almost a year ago. Then I thought of my friend whom I did my teaching course with: her dad died whilst she was a child and her mum died late summer last year.
I thought about 2 other friends who lost their dad as children. I thought about the friend who shared with me last week how her dad returned to God Almighty one fine winter.
And then I thought about my friend whose mum has been diagnosed with cancer. I thought about all those friends I have who have parents with poor health: someone with angina, someone with diabetes, someone with BP problems, someone with cancer again.
Even as I type this, I think of a friend whose dad died when she was 21. And another friend whose dad died in Ramadhan a year and a half ago. I then think of my own mum and dad: my dad has no parents in this world. My mum has only one.
I woke up and heard some unpleasant expressions.
I asked what was going on - and I heard how one of the neighbours a few doors away died suddenly with a heart attack. His body still at home. The wife in shock. The children cold and still. Oh my God!
Ina lila hi wa ina ilai hi rajeun.
From God we came - and to Him is our Return.
Why do we feel pain when someone dies? They don't even have to be close to us - but we feel hurting feelings inside. May God Almighty give us Peace.
My question remains unanswered:
What is worse: the loss of mum or the loss of dad?
Please also read:
Departure: Some Questions
I thought about one of my friends whose mum died 6 months ago, and how I had not been in touch with her as often as I should have been - because I needed some 'space'. I then thought of my friend who texted me a forward last week and how I had not been able to reply to her text. Her mum died almost a year ago. Then I thought of my friend whom I did my teaching course with: her dad died whilst she was a child and her mum died late summer last year.
I thought about 2 other friends who lost their dad as children. I thought about the friend who shared with me last week how her dad returned to God Almighty one fine winter.
And then I thought about my friend whose mum has been diagnosed with cancer. I thought about all those friends I have who have parents with poor health: someone with angina, someone with diabetes, someone with BP problems, someone with cancer again.
Even as I type this, I think of a friend whose dad died when she was 21. And another friend whose dad died in Ramadhan a year and a half ago. I then think of my own mum and dad: my dad has no parents in this world. My mum has only one.
I woke up and heard some unpleasant expressions.
I asked what was going on - and I heard how one of the neighbours a few doors away died suddenly with a heart attack. His body still at home. The wife in shock. The children cold and still. Oh my God!
Ina lila hi wa ina ilai hi rajeun.
From God we came - and to Him is our Return.
Why do we feel pain when someone dies? They don't even have to be close to us - but we feel hurting feelings inside. May God Almighty give us Peace.
My question remains unanswered:
What is worse: the loss of mum or the loss of dad?
Please also read:
Departure: Some Questions
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selam
"What is worse: the loss of mum or the loss of dad?" hmmm, tough question. I think the answer would say quite a bit about one's various relationships, so out of repect and honor I would hesitate to say since I think saying it would put too much out there and needlessly simplify one's relationship. Good question nonetheless.
Your art is very beautiful, I am hosting June 11th's "Progressive Faith Blog Carnival" at my blog
http://musicandsufism.blogspot.com/ maybe you'd like to share something?? I am trying to get a focus on faith and art, if you want to you can just send me a comment before that date and I'll link to your post. Thank you!
"What is worse: the loss of mum or the loss of dad?" hmmm, tough question. I think the answer would say quite a bit about one's various relationships, so out of repect and honor I would hesitate to say since I think saying it would put too much out there and needlessly simplify one's relationship. Good question nonetheless.
Your art is very beautiful, I am hosting June 11th's "Progressive Faith Blog Carnival" at my blog
http://musicandsufism.blogspot.com/ maybe you'd like to share something?? I am trying to get a focus on faith and art, if you want to you can just send me a comment before that date and I'll link to your post. Thank you!
Walaikumslam Kevin
And welcome to Camel-Land.
Thank you for your kind comments.
First things first: in regards the 'tough Q' the one thing I forgot to add in that entry was that for many of us, mum and dad are two of one. ie both are just as important. (Of course that is in a 'normal' relationship where both parents have given the child their due rights and not where the parents have been the cause of distress for the child). Sadly I forgot to add that pointer due to the death of the neighbouring uncle. I'd thought about the blog topic in bed and then was overcome with what happened so soon.
Secondly - The carnival sounds fab. What do I need to do?
Thanks
Wasalam
Bint
And welcome to Camel-Land.
Thank you for your kind comments.
First things first: in regards the 'tough Q' the one thing I forgot to add in that entry was that for many of us, mum and dad are two of one. ie both are just as important. (Of course that is in a 'normal' relationship where both parents have given the child their due rights and not where the parents have been the cause of distress for the child). Sadly I forgot to add that pointer due to the death of the neighbouring uncle. I'd thought about the blog topic in bed and then was overcome with what happened so soon.
Secondly - The carnival sounds fab. What do I need to do?
Thanks
Wasalam
Bint
Dear Sis, there is no answer. Each and every single relationship that we hold secures a special place in our hearts. The loss of this relationship of parent and child is one that cannot be weighed or even compared. We should make the most of every moment we can share with them xxx
sallam alaykum Bint,
I've posted more information about the carnival for you:
http://musicandsufism.blogspot.com/2006/05/blog-carnival.html
"what is a blog carnival?"
It's a digest of sorts: the host collects links to interesting posts, news articles, etc, and posts them, with or without a short description, on the arranged date.
You can find out more about The Progressiove Faith Blog
I would love to have a number of posts about the connection with Art and Faith ~ however you interpret that and how it manifests in your life, please share with the world what it is that brings you where you are. Of course any post on faith is of course welcome, don't feel you need to fit into some preconceived "artistic mold"! All are welcome.
"how do i submit?"
You can:
--leave a comment on my blog or
--email me kdgermain @ charter.net
Include the permalink to your post, the URL for your blog, and (optional) a brief description. If you email, make sure to put "Carnival Post" in the subject line.
Get your links to me by any time on June 10th.
I've posted more information about the carnival for you:
http://musicandsufism.blogspot.com/2006/05/blog-carnival.html
"what is a blog carnival?"
It's a digest of sorts: the host collects links to interesting posts, news articles, etc, and posts them, with or without a short description, on the arranged date.
You can find out more about The Progressiove Faith Blog
I would love to have a number of posts about the connection with Art and Faith ~ however you interpret that and how it manifests in your life, please share with the world what it is that brings you where you are. Of course any post on faith is of course welcome, don't feel you need to fit into some preconceived "artistic mold"! All are welcome.
"how do i submit?"
You can:
--leave a comment on my blog or
--email me kdgermain @ charter.net
Include the permalink to your post, the URL for your blog, and (optional) a brief description. If you email, make sure to put "Carnival Post" in the subject line.
Get your links to me by any time on June 10th.
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Each and every single relationship that we hold secures a special place in our hearts. The loss of this relationship of parent and child is one that cannot be weighed or even compared. We should make the most of every moment we can share with them..
Ameen x x
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Each and every single relationship that we hold secures a special place in our hearts. The loss of this relationship of parent and child is one that cannot be weighed or even compared. We should make the most of every moment we can share with them..
Ameen x x
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